This is why dating is stressful

I went on a date last night. It was just the latest in a long line of ridiculous dating stories in my life.

It started off well enough…but it soon regressed after that.

More after the break!

He had emailed me, asking to meet for coffee or a drink at 7:30 at Buffalo Wild Wings. I assumed that we were just grabbing a drink and so I ate dinner when I got off work.

Apparently, that was wrong. When we met, he ordered food, and made me feel bad for already eating, so I ordered chips and salsa and ate about 6 of them. He took the rest of them home.

He texted me before we were supposed to meet and was chatting with me. When I continued the conversation and asked a question, his reply was that he “had to get ready for our date.” Well then why did you text me? I was confused.

I got to the bar and he was waiting for me. We met for the first time, and he went in for the hug. I’m a hugger, so it was fine. We were seated and he kept texting on his phone, well after we had been seated at our table. He told me it was his mother and she had been harassing him all day. No biggie. I get it. He told me he was going to tell her he was on a date.

We were chatting and he told me he had to ask me one question, to see if I could ‘pass the test.’ He told me he was a very affectionate person, that he liked to hug, touch, and kiss. Especially kiss. (he actually said this, verbatim.) And he wanted to know if I was affectionate, or if this would be a problem for me. I told him I am affectionate, I’m a serial hugger. I think touch is important in any relationship, not just romantic ones. He told me I passed his test. Then he said he had another question, but that it wasn’t ‘appropriate for a first date.’ I said ok, and was ready to move on.

Apparently, he wasn’t. He then decided to tell/ask me the other question. He said that physically intimacy is very important to him. He likes it a lot, and NEEDS it a lot. Did I understand what he was getting at?

I couldn’t believe that he had just told me, on a first date, that he liked and needed a lot of sex! Dude. Most guys just think that, but don’t say it, on a first date. Seriously? Where do I find these losers?

I told him that I was picking up what he was putting down, and tried to move the conversation on. Oy. My life. Seriously.

I asked him my question. Are you a felon? (side note, a few years ago I dated an International Drug Trafficker. Whoops! Ever since then, I’m very cautious!) He said he’d never even been arrested.

He then asked me if I wanted to come over to his house and open a bottle of wine with him! (really? on our first date, after such a strange conversation? After just meeting? (we met online)). I told him no, I had to pickup my roommate from the airport. Whew!!

All in all, the date was fine. He was kind of odd. But whatever. He wants to see me again, but I have a lot going on this week, and am not free until next week. Clearly I’m not into him if I don’t really want to put forth the effort to see him sooner rather than later.

If you’ve been reading this blog for awhile, you know I’ve had a series of unfortunate dating incidents. In fact, I like to give my ex’s and odd dates nicknames. The Felon I call Crazy Felon Mike. (because he was! he wanted to talk marriage on the first date!) There was another guy I met I call Soon-To-Be-Divorced-Scott. (I think that one is self-explanatory!) I’ve dated Farmer Chris, Stupid Aaron, and The Brazilian.

So this guy needs a great nickname. And while I was trying to fall asleep I came up with it: “Over-Sexed-Scotty” Yes, another Scott. I don’t seem to have luck with that name.

All in all, I’m still going to keep trying. Because if you don’t put yourself out there, you won’t find anything, right?

Have a great day friends!!

What did I just get myself into?

Gulp.

I just bit the bullet and paid for a membership to an online dating site. I’d been on there for about a week or so and gotten several emails and messages, but couldn’t reply until I paid. And wouldn’t you know it, but they were having a special discount this weekend. So I pulled the trigger and got 3 months for the price of 1 and a half and now I’m seriously regretting it.

I’ve done the online thing before with some laughable results. I’ve gone on several dates and even dated one guy for awhile. But it just didn’t work out. And I’m not knocking anyone who has met their special person online. But I’ve always felt that I was better in real life than on paper.

But I digress.

It appears that I appeal to an older and quite younger demographic. I’ve gotten a lot of late 40 somethings and several 24 year olds who are sending me emails. (I’m 30).

Is it too much to ask to find a normal, decent, attractive, smart, funny guy in his early 30’s here? I don’t think I’m asking for the moon, just a good guy. I’m sure he’s out there, I’m just not sure if this is the way to go about finding him. It would really just be easier if he would just find me! 🙂

Oh well, at least it will provide us with some interesting stories, right?! I’ll keep you all posted. I’m sure we’re in for a bumpy ride. 🙂

Bah!

Speed Dating tonight has been rescheduled for next month! They emailed us and said that there were too many last minute cancellations.

I’m disappointed! I was kind of excited to meet new guys and have a good time. Oh well, right? We’ve been rescheduled for August 30th, so we’ll see what happens between now and then in my love life!

Have a good day friends!

I need a nap

My Christmas vacation screwed up my sleep schedule. I slept nearly everyday until 10am, and now 3 days back into the swing of things at work and I can’t haul my butt out of bed to get up and run. I haven’t run since my 5 miles on Monday. I want to run. I need to run. I love to run. I feel better when I run. But, here we are. I struggled with getting out of bed in the morning. And I know myself; I will not run after work. It just isn’t going to happen. So if I can’t do a morning run, then I do no run. It’s as simple as that.

I’m off tomorrow and Monday. Last vacation day of the year, and I get the “holiday” off on Monday. I’m going to try to get back into the rhythm of going to bed early and getting up early to run. Its the only way.

In other news, I’ve been talking to another guy on match. I told him I’m ready to meet him, so I’m trying to decide when to do that. This weekend is no go, thanks to the New Years Holiday, but I think early next week should be fine. He seems like a nice guy. So, we shall see.

I’ve also decided to call Nate after the holidays are over, if he doesn’t call first. We had a good time, he said he wanted to see me again, and I liked him. So I’m going to be proactive in my love life, and seize the day. You miss 100% of the shots you never take, right?

I’ve seen some people’s 2012 goals on my dashboard. My resolutions always used to be fitness related. Lose weight, exercise, eat better, etc. I’ve done that now, completely changing who I was before I lost 150 pounds to who I am now. So that’s not on the list. Last year, I resolved to stand up straighter, and have better posture. I’ve tried to work on that. This year? I don’t know. I have decided that one of my long term goals, to be accomplished in 2013, is going to be run a full marathon. And if I’m going to do it, I might as well do a destination marathon. I’ve settled on the Honolulu Marathon! Its held in December, and I can’t think of anywhere I’d rather go run 26.2 miles than Hawaii! 🙂 Now, I start saving my money.

I hope you all have a fantastic day friends!

Monday, Monday

My mom came home from the hospital today. She’s doing better. She’s just very tired. I don’t blame her. Today began my random days off. I work Tuesday and Wednesday and then I’m off for a 4 day weekend. Then I work next Monday and Tuesday and don’t go back to work until December 26th! I’m excited for the time off, and it works out that I can go home and be with my mom and help her out.

I had a previously scheduled facial and herbology body wrap today. I had bought it as a groupon. My face has been breaking out, so I hope this helps. It was fun, we shall see if it helps.

Saturday night my friends and I had an Ugly Christmas Sweater/Going Away Bowling Party for a couple of friends who recently got married and are now moving to her hometown 3 hours away. We had a fabulous time! But I’m going to miss them a lot.

I got up and went for a run before my facial. It was only a mile, but since I haven’t run since Thursday morning it was good to just get back out there and do something. Training for the Lincoln Half begins next month.

Have a good week friends!

I’m numb

The man I’ve been seeing, A, called tonight. I knew I was worried about a lack of communication for a reason. He sounded funny on the phone. Told me he was sick. Then, after we chatted a few minutes, he said there was something he needed to talk to me about. My stomach fell to my feet. I took a breath and asked him what it was.

Turns out, A has been thinking about his ex lately. Not in a we might get back together way, but just thinking about her. They were together 2 years before she broke it off. He never found out why. And that’s driven him nuts. But he felt like it wasn’t fair to me to be with me and think about her. So, even though, as he says, I’m awsome, and he loves hanging out with me, we are taking a break. Not breaking up. I told him he can’t get rid of me that easy! In 2 weeks, we will re-evaluate and go from there.

But the thing is, is that he doesn’t want to cut off contact with me. He just wants a break from hanging out with me. He wants me to text him, tell him how my doctors appt for my back goes, and just to tell him things in my life. I told him to text me too.

So there’s that. It will be a month on Friday that we’ve been seeing each other. I haven’t cried about this. Maybe because its not over? I don’t know. But I do know that all I wanted to do after we hung up the phone was go for a run. Maybe my mojo is back? I don’t know. But I do know that I’m not giving up without a fight.

Is it just me, or does anyone else sometimes feel like when you are truly happy, some force comes in and smacks you down? At least that’s how I feel tonight.

Sigh.

You guys rock

Seriously. I feel the love! I appreciate all your kind words and comments. It means a lot to me.

I’ve had some weird days lately. Last Thursday, when I got into work, I had to scoot out the door, heading west on the Interstate to rendezvous with one of my reporters. She was driving one of our TV station’s car’s out to another city, about 2 hours away, when the transmission died. She was stuck on the side of the road,and needed to get to her story. So I took a working car, and gave her that car, then sat with the dead car while someone else came to get me. Then, when I got back to work, I found a garter snake in the bathroom! I didn’t scream, just calmly told my boss about it, and they took care of it! But eewww! gross! Then, I met Snow White and Dopey. They were in town for a performance of Disney Live! and they were on our midday forum. So I got my picture taken with them!

Yesterday, as I was driving on the highway, I saw a hitchhiker. Today, I got to hold the cutest little dachshund puppy! He was so precious! (My parents have two dachsies!)

I got up and ran this morning. It sucked, but was good to get back into my routine. I saw on spider on the wall near the treadmill. I screamed a few times…as it was too close for comfort! I hate spiders! eeeewwwww..

Tonight, A & I have a date. I’m excited to see him!

Happy Wednesday friends!

Meh.

Today has been, kind of ehhhhh. If don’t know if it is due to the weather. (Its cold, 49 degrees, grey and rainy.) Or if its due to the fact that I have to work tomorrow for the Husker football game. (Someone has to produce our post game shows!) Or if its because of a certain man and a lack of communication. I’m not sure. I’ve been a crabby appleton today.

So I’m doing something about it: I can’t control the weather, but I can wear an adorable new husker hoodie! I have to work tomorrow, but I can go for a run in the morning before work. I can’t control this man, or his communicating, but I can control my reaction. I’m going out tonight and plan on having a great time! I’m not in a relationship, and therefore I’m going to have fun!

So, seeing as no one wanted to go see the movie “Midnight in Paris” with me, I’m taking myself to the movies! I’m a good date! I promise! Then, I’m going out with my girlfriends!

I shouldn’t complain about being alone. I had 2 offers for dates within 10 minutes tonight! There are 2 guys who are the reason why I don’t appear on facebook chat. Everytime I’m on, they talk to me and are a bit creepy. So I just don’t appear. Today, I was on chat and they BOTH chatted me up! One wanted to go out tonight, and the other wanted to take me to a soccer game in Kansas City for the weekend! Um, no thanks?!

Anywho, have a good weekend friends!

Well now….

I took 3 days off, in a row, from running last week. I had several excellent reasons (read: excuses) for doing so, but regardless, I took the time off. And you know what?

I didn’t feel the least bit guilty.

I’m not on a training schedule for any races, just running for fun and fitness. And because, as I tell my co-workers, I’m a much nicer person when I run! 🙂

On Sunday, I lounged in the pool for a few hours and then decided to go for a fun run. I did 1.25 miles in about 14 minutes. That’s about a 11:40ish mile pace. I even walked some because I got a nasty stitch in my side and had to get it out. But it was just good to get back out pounding the pavement.

The whole reason for my time off?

A boy. Actually, a man. The Man from Brazil.

I told you all on Saturday that he said he would call on Thursday and see me on Friday and then neither of those things happened. So I was irritated, but did I really even have the right to be? I don’t know.

So Saturday night was round 2 of Darby’s (my meteorologist friend) going away party. Since a lot of us work the 2-11 shift, the shenanigans didn’t begin until 11pm. We met at one of our favorite hangouts and had a good time. I had been there for about 45 minutes when my friend who introduced me to the Man From Brazil called me and told me that I had to get down to the wedding reception that they were all at. (The entire reason he came back to town was for this wedding.)

I couldn’t decide what to do. I wanted to go, but didn’t want to be pathetic or crash a wedding reception. Finally, she called again, but this time the Man from Brazil was on the phone. He convinced me to come to the reception and so I walked the 4 blocks to the wedding reception.

He was so happy to see me. He said that his phone died the day before and he wasn’t back at the place he was staying to charge it, and he had a bunch of pre-wedding stuff to do and didn’t even get back to the house he was staying at until 1am. So I forgave the oversight.

My friend’s husband told me that he had been talking about me ALL night! When I got there, this older woman pulled me into a hug and told me that I was even more gorgeous in person and that they just love the man from Brazil (TMFB) and that they loved me too. She said that he is just such a great guy then said, “oh you don’t want to hug me,” and pushed me toward TMFB.

I won’t go into all of the dirty details on the internet…some things just need to stay private! But suffice it to say, we had a GREAT time Saturday night. He walked me back to my car, always staying on the street side, just to keep me safe! So sweet!

So I got home late and didn’t get much sleep! He went home to Brazil Monday and I won’t see him until October. Sigh!

“Last Friday Night…”

So I told you the other day that The Man from Brazil said he wanted to see me again, said he would call me Thursday and wanted to see me on Friday. I thought to myself, “this whole thing really is what it is.” He’s leaving for Brazil on Sunday and would be thousands of miles away for at least a few months so whatever time I could spend with him would be fine. And I wouldn’t obsess and worry about it because really, the whole thing is just a fun fling.

Well, he didn’t call on Thursday and he never called or came out on Friday. My friends who introduced me to him tried to get in touch with him too, and he didn’t answer. My feeling is that it is what it is. Its his loss.

We went out to a Dancing with the local stars show that 3 of my co-workers from the TV station were in. It was fun. Then we went out downtown to celebrate one of my co-workers who is leaving for Little Rock Arkansas. His name is Darby, if you are in Little Rock, watch his weather forecasts! He is great!

I wore this fabulous little white dress. I was worried it was too short, but it was fine. I also wore gold sparkly high heels. I was stared by hot guys all night! There was this guy at one bar who was so hot and he just kept staring at me! I kept smiling at him, and looking at him because I could feel him staring at me. It was unnerving. However, he never came over to me, and I didn’t talk to him, but sometimes its enough to know they think you’re hot!

Then, as we were leaving and walking to the car, this guy stopped me outside a bar. The exchange went like this:

Random Hottie: “Excuse me.”

Me: “Yes?”

Random Hottie: Looks me up and down, real slow! And then says, “You are so sexy.”

Me: “Thank you!”

He puts his arm around me and pulls me to his side and says, “Where are you going?”

ME: “I have to go home.”

Him: “No, you need to stay here with me. Seriously, you are hot.”

Me: “Thank you, but I really have to go.”

Him: “You really are sexy. My God! I wish you’d stay with me.”

Me: “I can’t, but thank you.”

What a good night for me! Sorry Man from Brazil, but you snooze, you lose! There are plenty of men around here!!!

Have a great day friends! I’m pretty sure I will! 😉

Darby and I after his Dancing with the Stars dance! Watch for him in Little Rock!