The following article was written about me by my coworker to appear in our monthly newsletter. May is Open Enrollment for health insurance with the State of Nebraska and we do a Wellness Plan that encourages you to make healthy choices and move more. When my coworker found out about my weight loss, she pitched this story idea to my boss. She was all about it. Here’s the finished piece, including my before and after photos that will accompany it. If you have any great ideas for a title, please send them my way…we are still searching for one, thanks!

Transforming Melissa: Small Steps Yield Big Changes

Note: May is National Health and Fitness Month and Global Employee Health and Fitness Month. Here’s hoping this story can be a motivator for better health. Melissa participates in the state’s Wellness Option Insurance Plan.

By Julie N.

Melissa L. has lost herself. Half of herself, that is.

To look at Melissa, you’d never know that she lost 150 pounds – going from a high of 300 pounds to 150 pounds. And what’s even more remarkable is the way that she did it: the old-fashioned way, incorporating simple wellness tips into her daily routine, such as eating smaller portions and adding light exercise to her routine. In fact, you may see the 5’9” public information officer for the Department of Health and Human Services doing a few laps around the lower level of the State Office Building each day, as she logs the 10,000 steps a day prescribed by the State’s Wellness Options Health Plan while on breaks and her lunch hour.

As part of May’s Global Employee Health and Fitness month, Melissa shared her story with Connections.

Melissa, who began gaining weight in the fifth grade, noted that the catalyst of her major change was a former co-worker, who looked at her pre-diet lunch of cheeseburgers and asked her point blank, “why are you eating that junk?” As well, her mother, a cardiac nurse, warned of the dangers of overeating and recommended an 80/20 plan: eating healthily 80 percent of the time, allowing less-healthy treats the remaining 20 percent of the time. “I realized that my quality of life was not going to be great as I got older if I held on to the weight,” Melissa said.

So Melissa, then 23, decided she’d try eating a new way and kick what she calls “the other f-word.” While no food was off-limits (“that’s an invitation to binge,” she said of “forbidden” foods), breakfast was typically oatmeal or half a cup of Special K cereal; lunch, a Lean Cuisine meal – “because they were already portioned out,” she explained – and dinner a salad with chicken and dressing on the side from Runza. “I’d dip my fork into the dressing, then into the salad,” she said. “And portion control is absolutely key. With a lot of restaurant meals, I’ll ask for a to-go container and automatically put half of the food in it for another meal. When I was losing weight, I often ordered a kids’ meal. They are often healthier, and the portions are more in line with what we should be eating. And – bonus – they’re cheaper.”

Within a month, Melissa lost 20 pounds and was inspired to keep going, even though her doctor told her she’d likely never get below 200 pounds. “I took that as a challenge,” she said with a smile.  Teaming up with two close friends, Melissa began a regular gym routine two months after beginning her dietary changes. “Even when I didn’t feel like working out, my friends would drag me out of the house and to the gym,” she remembered (six months later and 60 pounds down, Melissa was a bridesmaid for one of those friends.) Melissa began by walking slowly on the treadmill, gradually adding weight-lifting and elliptical training to her routine. “I didn’t do everything at once,” she said. “I think if I’d tried to completely change the way I ate and began exercising right away I’d set myself up to fail. So I started eating more healthily, then began to work in the exercise piece.”

Melissa emphasizes that her weight-loss journey was a slow and steady path, rather than a faddish, lose-weight-quick scheme. “I started losing weight in June 2005, and I hit my goal in October 2011,” she said. That included a year-long plateau at 90 pounds down, which she broke through when she began running. She will run the Lincoln Half-Marathon for the sixth consecutive year in May 2016, and ran the Chicago Marathon in 2012. She’s also done “countless” 5K and 10K races. “It’s become a stress reliever,” she said. “I get all itchy when I haven’t run. Given a long-enough run, I feel like I could solve all the world’s problems.”

Melissa also emphasizes that keeping weight off is a matter of constant vigilance. “I weigh myself every day, and my weight will be something I’ll always have to watch,” she said. “I don’t have a superhuman metabolism. It’s hard. But choose your hard.”  But it’s a worthwhile tradeoff. “I had no self-confidence when I was younger,” she said. “People don’t see you when you’re that big, even though you take up so much space. If I had a dollar for every time I heard, ‘you have such a pretty face…’ Everyone knows what that dot dot dot means, even if they don’t say it out loud.”

She encourages everyone who is thinking of making lifestyle changes to believe in themselves enough to do it. “It has to be on your time, but getting healthy is a gift you give your future self,” she said. “And don’t beat yourself up if you slip. Every day is a new day.”

Easter family fun at my brother’s house

The first photo is my middle nephew Nick and I. That pic nails our personalities. He’s a nut. So am I.

The oldest one Jon is 9. He can pick me up. I outweigh him by about 100 pounds! He does squats and push ups and loves to run. I’m so proud!

The last photo I’m picking up my older brother. After I struggled to do that, he stood up, and picked me up with one hand under my legs, the other under my arms like I weighed nothing! That NEVER would have happened before I lost the weight!

Life is good. Things are good. I don’t have replies yet, but you can’t win ‘em all, can you??

Tuesday OOTD

Boogie Woogie Bugle Boy dress. And some biceps.

I have to do my weekly check in with @clevcrew tonight. I’m really not looking forward to that because I’m fairly confident that I will likely have a gain. Or at least no loss due to my body being weird the last month. Oh well. Each day is a new day and the chance to start again.

I told my Lincoln tumblr girls that I feel like I’ve had nothing to blog about lately. @dragonbellez told me to post my outfits…So here you go!

Have a good one friends!

Despite not being allowed to exercise AT ALL until tomorrow at the earliest (what kind of birthday present is that?! On my birthday Wednesday I MIGHT get to run?? I NEED to. I’m going crazy!) I’m very pleased with this body. I’ve pretty much stayed the same in terms of weight but that’s ok. My health comes first. I ate a fair amount of red meat in the past few days. More than I usually eat. So the fact that this is what I look like on my last day of being 33? I’m definitely good with that!

Here’s to making good (food) choices!

Friday Five!

1. Today is sheer perfection. I went to lunch with my friend and I had a really hard time coming back to work. Since we work downtown, we ate lunch on the patio. I’m a fan.

2. Also, can I take a minute to appreciate my mint shirt and my mint boat shoes?? Because, mint shoes are awesome. And the fact that they are boat shoes?? Even better!

3. My doctor has made me take the weekend off running and working out because he thinks that I’ve become anemic due to a health blip. Of course this would happen to me. It’s ok. We’re figuring it out and making adjustments and I should be fine soon.

4. My birthday is Wednesday. The big 3-4. How did I let THAT happen???!?!? I feel like at this age I should be more of an adult. Not sure I’m there yet.

5. Dating. That’s fun! Things are happening in that area…I’m currently seeing the Firefighter (HOT), there is a guy that I was set-up with, another guy, AND the nice guy from Omaha wants back in the picture. He’s 29 and told me that I’m “not like other girls!” I wanted to tell him that was because I was not a girl, but a woman. And in this case (dating) it makes a difference. How am I dating 4 different guys???!!! What is my life?? I’m tired. #AdventuresWithMelissa

6. Bonus one: I found out how much I’m getting back on my taxes (hint: it’s A LOT!!!) I’m going to pay off my credit card and put a huge amount in savings. I want to take a trip somewhere warm next January or February. This would cover that….and then some! 😉

Have a fantastic Friday friends!!

Thursday Things

-My hair is pretty big today. That’s cool. I’m a fan.

-I also dig my outfit. I kinda look like Minnie Mouse

-In weird news, my ex (I know, I know) has defriended me on Snapchat. He got rid of his facebook last week and now this. I kind of just wish that it would have happened back in September when the break up happened…not now. It has been drug out to this place where I thought we were friends and things were good! But, apparently not. I think he just wants to be friends if I’m single. (I told him a month ago that I was dating other guys. He said that if he were seeing someone, he would just unfriend me on facebook.) Now I feel like things are weird and I REALLY want to call him on it. It REALLY SUCKS that he lives so close to me.

-I’m doing well on my @clevcrew meal plan. I have to admit that I really don’t care for the oatmeal. I dress it up with cinnamon but still!! Not my favorite.

-I had a guy want to go out with me who I had gone out with 2 years ago and had a terrible date with. I declined. I yawned through the whole date and was so bored. I don’t want to repeat that. No thanks.

-It’s Friday eve. Hooray! Have a good one cats!

Scenes from a VERY BUSY weekend

  • I was supposed to run 6 miles on Saturday, misjudged and ran 7.5. Into the wind and up a lot of hills from mile 4 on. Gross. But, because of that, going to a Husker Basketball game, and having to park several blocks away, AND getting to move into better seats!! I managed to hit 10 miles on Saturday. I’m not mad about that! 🙂
  • That 3rd photo is from Friday. It was pretty perfect here the past few days…and I snapped that shot as I was walking back to work after going to the Dentist for the first half of my root canal. Because I wasn’t having any pain relief, they drilled into the tooth to drain the abscess that wasn’t responding to the antibiotics. The good news?? My tooth FINALLY DOESN’T HURT!! #blessed.
  • Today the roomie and I took her dog to the dog park and wore him out. Then I headed up to Omaha to shop and chill with my bestie. When I got home Reggie wanted to snuggle…he was spent. Normally he’s jumping all over me and won’t leave me alone. Today he just followed me around and flopped down next to me wherever I went. He’s pretty cute.
  • Dating update: Friday night was karaoke for my friend Keith’s birthday. The firefighter came, and brought a couple of friends. We had a blast! He and I danced a bunch and his friends are great. His one friend kept teasing me and told me how awesome I am. He and I are now friends on Snapchat. (because why not??). The friend told me that if he wouldn’t tease that would mean he didn’t like me. He said I was “in.” He texted the firefighter after they left and told him how cool I am and how much they liked me. So there’s that. 🙂
  • Saturday I went out with the guy from last week. I call him the Aggressive Kisser. I won’t go into detail, but I think you get the gist. We went to the basketball game and had a good time. But I just don’t feel comfortable with him, you know?? He managed to get a few strikes against him (besides the kissing! ugh!) He told me he never wears his seatbelt and refuses to. (Don’t even get me started on that. Seat Belts save lives. End of story.) Then he told me he does chewing tobacco. GROSS. I told him that it was gross. He also is not willing to quit that. 3 strikes buddy. You’re out.
  • I do have a date tonight with the guy I cancelled with last week. Fingers crossed! 
  • I have a question to pose to you all, regarding male/female friendships…but perhaps that’s best left for another post, when we actually have replies??

 Have a great week Cats!

If I don’t laugh I’ll cry

  • My tooth is KILLING ME. Every time I eat it hurts more. Solution: don’t eat. Except I like food too much so that’s a no go.
  • Tonight’s date was TERRIBLE. He had a lazy eye (I couldn’t figure out where to look!) He talked about himself the ENTIRE TIME. And he made me split the bill! (He asked me out). The date lasted 45 minutes and I called it on account of my tooth. He wants to go out after I have the root canal. I am going to let him down gently.
  • I couldn’t wake up this morning to run because of my painkiller hangover so I have to adjust my runs for the week. If it had been a good date I wouldn’t mind-but now I’m just 6 kinds of irritated.
  • I have 4 miles to run tomorrow-I’m intentionally running after work because it’s going to be 50 degrees and I think I’ll need the stress relief.
  • The firefighter…why do we always want the ones who are bad for us? He is still there…but not as much. It’s confusing. I don’t like it. I know, I know, I need to tell him to go…but I actually like him, even though I shouldn’t.
  • I have nothing planned tomorrow. A date with another new guy on Thursday. Dinner with a (male) friend and birthday karaoke on Friday. And a second date with the guy from Saturday this coming Saturday. I promise this isn’t just a dating blog. But it’s my life. And while I am running, I’m dating too.
  • Do you ever look at someone’s life and think, “They are a trainwreck, and I can’t stop watching?” Lately, I’ve become concerned that you all think that about ME. I really hope that isn’t the case. That you’re not sitting there, just waiting for me to write some ridiculous nonsense about my dating life…intermingled with a bit about running and weight loss. I hope that you aren’t thinking I’m a desperate loser. I’m not. I don’t feel like I am.
  • On that note, why is it ok for men to date multiple women at one time and not for women to date multiple men at one time? My friend Chris jokingly called me a whore at lunch today because I told him I had a date Saturday with one guy and a date with another guy tonight. I was mad. Don’t call me a whore because I’m dating! I’m not sleeping with them!! Sheesh. So many double standards still exist for men and women and it sucks.

Ok. I’m off my soapbox now. 🙂 Thanks for listening friends. I’m going to bed. Things always look better in the morning, right?!?!?

Friday Five (from today on snap chat)

1. “We’re at a fork in the road Melissa.” Words you NEVER want to hear from a doctor, even your dentist! He said I could either have a root canal or pull the offending tooth. I quickly agreed to the root canal and set it up for the next appointment—in TWO weeks. I had to call to change the antibiotic and they gave me more pain pills as I can’t seem to get a handle on the pain from the abscess right now. SIGH.

2. I have a first date with a new guy Saturday night. I have this feeling that there is a line that divides men at this age (early to mid 30s). I’m not sure where it is, but at some point it appears they just want to text you instead of actually talking to you on the phone. Then they hit some magical age where they’d actually rather just talk to you on the phone than text you AT ALL. And that guy? I REALLY LIKE him! Saturday night guy and I talked for an hour on Monday and then he asked me out for Saturday, saying he would touch base later this week to finalize plans, but he wanted to get penciled in for my weekend. He called last night to decide on a time and place. He said he would call today and make reservations just in case it was busy due to Valentine’s Day weekend. WHAT?!?! I’m a fan already. He’s 36, has a good job, seems like a good man, and he’s tall—6’4”!! As a tall girl (5’9”) I LOVE that!

3. Nice guy is still texting. He’s confused and doesn’t know what to do about his ex. He thinks I’m “Freaking amazing” and doesn’t know if he can trust her yet. So there’s that. He texted while I was out with the Firefighter. Who, despite saying he’s emotionally unavailable, acts like he is! We text and snap chat pretty much every day. I’m just going with it for now. I have yet to talk to him today—but I’m guessing I will hear from him at some point. Men. I also have a date with another guy on Monday. This dating around thing is kinda exhausting!

4. I’m supposed to go see “How to Be Single” with my girlfriends tonight. Every single one of them bailed on me. I really want to see it, and tonight may be the only time I can go so I think I’m taking myself to the movies tonight. I honestly don’t care if that makes me pathetic. I love going to the movies by myself!

5. Monday is President’s Day and therefore is a state holiday so I’m off. #blessed. Living the good life here people!

Have a great weekend friends!

Thursday Things

·I have a pretty massive toothache. I am fairly sure that my crown is coming off, which would explain why I can’t seem to get this pain under control. I go to the Dentist in about 3 hours. I can’t wait! Seriously, fix me dude.

·I took 2 of the leftover Tylenol #3 (with Codeine) that I have from the last time I had a tooth infection to try and get on top of the pain. Well, I STILL felt the effects of it about 13 hours later! I had a really tough time waking up and I felt out of it for much of the morning.

·That mirror is in my office area. Pretty much all of the women can see into it just fine…except for me. The struggle!

·I think about a lot of random stuff during the day when I’m just being quiet. One of those things is that they have female inmates do the cleaning here (I work in the State Office Building). And I was thinking about how different our lives are: their power to make their own decisions is gone. They have to wear terrible gray uniforms. Their jobs are simply to clean bathrooms and kitchen areas. They all appear to be about 2-3 days post shower. Whatever past choices they made in their lives to bring them here are their own. I just am glad that I haven’t made the same ones!

·Earlier this week I got a special Valentine from one of our office’s on the western side of the state. They sent it to me because they said that I was doing such a great job on the employee homepage and with the newsletter. I am doing a feature called “Employee Fun Facts” where people tell things they make or do in their spare time. I LOVE random facts and employees have embraced it! Made my day!

It’s Thursday. We can make it guys!